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Journey of Discovering My Hypersensitivity/ Empath

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The hypersensitive person or Empath was something I didn’t grow up knowing; once I found out what it was, it all made sense. I grew up in a black household. You know that phrase (you better be quiet, or I’ll give you something to cry about). I cried a lot, according to my mother, frequently for no apparent reason. When I would get in trouble, my Mom stated that my “nerves” would be “wrecked,” and my nervous system would respond. I recall feeling overwhelmed, mainly because I was amongst trauma and felt and saw the effects on both my siblings and me. I eagerly offered a lending hand to my mother in assisting with my siblings and would advise my mother throughout my teenage years. She would state, “you act as if I’m your child,” and I did.


Afternoon naps were my best friend. My grandfather would always say, “Arriel always gets her beauty sleep .” I slept after school, at night, and during the day. During sleepovers, there was always a bet that “Arriel will be the first to go to sleep,” and I always was. Naps rejuvenated me. I’ve always had very imaginative and vivid dreams. Around five years old, I remember waking out of my sleep asking myself, “if God made us, who made God” I was curious and always have been. I always found my way to water naturally and could be outside all day. I recall lying in a bed of daisies as a child, looking up into the clouds wondering (what was up there).


After leaving home and going off to college, I would often attract “wounded men,” yes, the helper I became. I was forgoing all of my desires to help. It was an innate feeling within me to give of myself to others. I didn’t think anything was wrong with it. I couldn’t bare suffering and seeing people in pain. I honestly thought, “I can handle pain better than others,” and I would gladly go without before allowing someone else to. Often people praised me for being this “kind” and “selfless soul .” I could easily be persuaded to stay out late and enjoy the party scene, though I would rather curl up and read a book. I never quite understood the notion of “not enjoying time by oneself .” I enjoyed my alone time, maybe a little too much, as I could become aloof for some time. With all of these many years being “weird,” I became a receptionist for a company, and this pastor came to me. He told me that I attracted people. He gave me a story about his upbringing and how he just knew things as a child. He noted saying things that just came to him, and people would be shocked by his knowledge. He told me his wife had a similar gift and that I was similar to her. He stated, “Arriel, you are to be kind and loving, don’t allow people to take that from you .”God used this man to bring me a message in a world that does not offer safety for the sensitive. To allow God’s love to flow through me and accept it. After that, I was inspired to do some research to find out more about “people like me.” 


Highly sensitive people, Empaths or Healers. People who have a hypersensitive nervous system. Who feels profound and can sense things that many can’t. Now, I wouldn’t say it’s a superpower because we all have gifts. For me, this gift felt like a curse sometimes. Being a black person, male or female emotions are something we have been told to silence partially when we have come from trauma. We should be focused on the basic needs of clothing, food, and shelter. There wasn’t much room for emotions in me as a child. I internalized a lot of my feelings and lacked a sense of vulnerability. Many parents may not understand this, but if your child is hypersensitive, not embracing their emotions can be detrimental to their mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. Unfortunately, many parents lack knowledge of signs their child could be hypersensitive.


Please do not use this as a means to diagnose. Please seek a professional help. Pray and meditate on every word that reaches you. If your child or yourself has any of the symptoms of being an Empath, I will also provide additional information to assist with balancing and grounding your gifts.


I hope my story was helpful for you in identifying similar experiences for yourself. Sending love and light, 


Ari

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